Dating and who pays
Beyond a first date, the rules change a bit though and it depends on what you do together.For example, if it's dinner and an after-dinner cocktail for a second date, it's great for the woman to pay for the cocktails at the second destination. Ultimately, paying the bill on a date shows It's a gesture to let someone know you're interested in them and appreciate them.I once went on a date to a free comedy show with a guy I met online.There were plenty of reasons the date was disastrous—think dead silence for up to ten minutes at a time—but the real rock bottom moment for me was when I said I was going up to the bar to get a drink and asked if he wanted anything (I wasn’t that thirsty but needed to break the tension).Consider: You’ve spotted this woman at your local coffee shop, or grocery store, or tagged in a friend’s Facebook photo. You pick her up, open the door, and are a perfect gentleman all night. The next thing out of your mouth is “So, should we split it? In my opinion, the man should always pay for dates, at least in the beginning stages of a relationship. Probably more than you will spend on dinner, even at a nice restaurant in the city. But since this all happens behind the scenes, men tend to give a “wow, you look beautiful” at the beginning of the evening and really overlook the work and effort it took to achieve the result they wanted.You’ve started up a conversation, and she has agreed to spend some time with you. I don’t care what Beyonce says, they did not “wake up like this.” Romance is about spending time, not money.
You don’t want to do anything that’s going to ruin your chances of dating someone.” She suggests the guy pay for the first month, or until you’ve established that you’re in a committed relationship.
That’s why she said yes to the date, and she doesn’t care what it costs.
There are two things a woman should never touch on a date: The door, and the cheque.
Showing you’ve thought about the other person is what matters, and on a first date, paying is a way to do that.
If you don’t have a lot of money, you can choose an inexpensive date so that you can cover the costs.
I guarantee you that a woman would rather you put real effort into doing something less expensive together than she would taking her to a five star restaurant and having a lousy time with lousy conversation.